You Asked, We Answer: Essential Divorce Guidance from Your Questions
Navigating Modern Divorce: Technology, Communication, and Moving Forward
In this listener Q&A episode of How to Split a Toaster, divorce attorney Seth Nelson and host Pete Wright tackle pressing questions about divorce in the digital age. The discussion covers everything from managing electronic communications with ex-partners to the challenges of relocation and new relationships.
Digital Age Divorce Challenges
The hosts explore how technology has transformed divorce and co-parenting, addressing concerns about constant communication through phones and co-parenting apps. Seth provides practical strategies for setting boundaries while maintaining necessary contact, especially regarding court-ordered response times and children's FaceTime calls.
Legal Considerations and Personal Growth
The conversation shifts to critical legal topics like relocation, annulments, and protecting oneself in future relationships. Seth emphasizes the importance of consulting local jurisdiction laws while offering insights on navigating high-conflict situations and managing communication effectively.
Mental Health and Moving Forward
A significant portion focuses on the value of mental health support before, during, and after divorce. The hosts discuss how emotional work can positively impact custody arrangements and co-parenting relationships, while emphasizing the importance of setting healthy boundaries.
Key Insights:
• Set clear communication boundaries through co-parenting apps and scheduled check-ins
• Consider mental health support early in the divorce process to improve outcomes
• Protect yourself legally and emotionally in future relationships through careful planning
The episode provides practical guidance for managing modern divorce challenges while maintaining focus on healthy relationships and effective co-parenting. Listeners gain valuable insights from both legal and personal growth perspectives, helping them navigate their divorce journey more effectively.
For anyone facing divorce in today's interconnected world, this episode offers essential strategies for managing technology, protecting their interests, and maintaining healthy boundaries while prioritizing children's well-being.
Links & Notes
Read BIFF: Quick Responses to High-Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns by Bill Eddy
Tune in to It’s All Your Fault: The Hight Conflict People podcast with Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter
Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!
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'Pete Wright:
Welcome to How to Split a Toaster, a Divorce Podcast about saving your relationships from True Story FM. And guess what? It's listener question day.
Seth Nelson.
Seth Nelson:
Bring it on, Pete.
Pete Wright:
Here we go. We got a lot of questions and I have to say we've just been going through the questions and if you don't hear your question specifically, just know we're probably bundling it with other questions. We had some that are a little bit repetitive, so we kind of picked the one that we felt addressed the issue most clearly, and we're kind of moving forward with that because we do have more questions I think for a single episode than we've ever had and I'm very excited to dig in. So here we go.
Number one, this is from Digitally Drained. "What was divorce like before cell phones and email?" Feels like antique. Just like a different era.
Seth Nelson:
Right.
Pete Wright:
"I feel the constant communication with my ex and even my lawyers is so stressful. I'm court ordered to use a co-parenting app and respond in 24 hours. My ex will send two to five messages a day. It's exhausting. We also do daily FaceTimes for the kids. Also exhausting during my time. I feel prior to cell phone's, divorce must have been so much less invasive and stressful. I'd like to have just one day to not interact with my ex, but I am not allowed." What do you think?
Seth Nelson:
Well, great question. So yeah, I mean it was less invasive for all of our lives before cell phones. I've actually recently gotten in the habit of turning off all notifications and my phone is constantly on do not disturb and I will check it periodically throughout the day and I'm just much more focused, much more relaxed, much more in tune to what I'm doing and more effective I think. So think about that. Now let's talk about communication. There's things you can do to make this less stressful. I'm not a big fan of the having to respond within 24 hours. I see that in a lot of plans. I prefer once a day because if you check that app at eight a.m. on Friday morning and you do not have your children that morning, but you're getting them that afternoon and for the weekend, well technically you're supposed to check that app again by eight a.m. on Saturday morning, but you have the kids and they're up and you're making them pancakes, so you check it at noon.
So the once a day, if there's any way to talk to your lawyer and your local jurisdiction or get that amended to once a day, I find that to be more peaceful for people. Then once a day or in a compliance with your court order, you sit down and you say, "Okay, I'm going to take my 10 minutes. I'm going to check in." And you got to do it in a spot that's good for you. You're in the right state of mind where you're not rushing, you're not going somewhere, you're not in an Uber, and you check it and then you respond accordingly. And we're going to talk about communication later in this show on some of the questions on how to communicate with our favorite book, BIFF, that we've mentioned before. So that's one way. Second is the FaceTime calls with the kids. There will come a time when they will have their own phones.
There will come a time. Usually with these FaceTime calls where you're doing it through the app, it's with kids that don't have their own cell phone. So I hear you, there's an agreement or there's a court order whether by order by the court or not, and it's going to be something that you're going to have to help your kids with. Hopefully the other parent is helping the kids when you want to talk to them. So if you can try to get a mindset of this isn't invasive as an of my life of I got to deal with them. It's like, "Hey, I'm setting up a call for my kids." No different than if they're calling grandma. No different if they're calling grandpa, no different if they were calling a friend at that age. So part of this is mindset.
On the two to five messages a day, that's why you're going to set apart a time to answer those all at the same time. You don't have to keep getting dinged, right? We've talked about this before, Pete. Everyone has a cell phone for one reason and one reason only, for their convenience. Don't let that be a one way ticket for the other person to harass and annoy you. But that's totally about you setting the boundary for yourself to say, "Okay, six o'clock at night, I'm going to check in. I'm going to do this, then I'm going to make dinner." However you want to manage your life, maybe you do it first thing in the morning, get it out of the way and move on. Whatever works for you. But hopefully some of those strategies will be less evasive and stressful.
Pete Wright:
I'm just curious on the first part of that question though, because it seems like divorce has adapted to the technology that exists and sort of enforced using that technology to enhance, I guess, I say that in quotes, to enhance the relationship between kids and co-parenting adults. But what was the alternative before FaceTimes every day and two to four texts and when we weren't texting, I mean it's not that long ago that it was much harder to do this. So what did the court ask you to do?
Seth Nelson:
Well, and I wasn't really practicing.
Pete Wright:
Yeah. Okay.
Seth Nelson:
We were still texting back then, but it's gotten progressively more and we got all these apps now and so it's certainly been on that train. So there were more emails. Right? Now it's more text messages and before cell phones, and I don't know this from personal experience, but if you just think about it, at some levels it was better. They were gone with you all weekend, but then maybe you had to be home between six and seven Friday night and Saturday night because that was the phone call to the other parent and you had to have a landline. So with everything there's positives and negatives. You didn't know what your kid was doing all weekend, right? Some people, that may have been very stressful, but I totally get it. I don't think this is unique to divorce. I think this is unique to everyone [inaudible 00:06:34] their cell phones.
Pete Wright:
The times we are living in. Yeah.
Seth Nelson:
Yeah.
Pete Wright:
All right, next question. This one from Flight Planning. "If I move across the country with my children prior to any legal action being filed, is this allowed in Florida? I read the statute and it seems it is, and I do not need to apply for relocation so long as I wait to file for divorce after the move. Is there anything wrong with this legally? Can my ex force me back? I'm trying to escape a bad situation."
Seth Nelson:
So this is asking a very specific legal question. Since we don't give legal advice, I'm not going to answer it specifically.
Pete Wright:
Okay.
Seth Nelson:
Go talk to a lawyer and get very specific advice. There is generally very tricky things here. Let's just assume someone is married and they move across the state lines and they go, whatever, Florida to California, let's make it hard, right?
And you're not divorced. Well, we live in a free society, you can move, but what implication is that going to have on your case? I don't think a court is going to look too kindly when you got up and moved even though you're legally allowed to do so and now you've set up a long distance parenting plan and then you go to court and you're like, "I want to stay in California." And the judge says, "That's fine, but the kids are going to go to school in Florida." So there's implications on your actions when you get to the final parenting plan. Do you want to be the long distance parent? You're assuming the court's going to believe and get all the information into evidence to say, yeah, you should have been allowed to move. And there's very specific reasons why you might be allowed to move under the relocation statute in Florida, but check your local jurisdiction.
You can always file for divorce and ask to move and explain why and look at that statute and get with a lawyer. And there's part of it's, do you have a job offer? Is it better living circumstances? What's the place best for the kids, like, schooling? There's all sorts of factors. No one ever looks around the country and finds the best possible schools and the best possible job. And let's say that's in Oklahoma City, Oklahoma and says, "I'm moving there." "Have you ever been there?" "Not once, Judge, but it's the best school and the best job." They're always like, "I'm going to go to California where I have a support system and my family lives." So I'm not answering this specifically. Please check with your lawyer.
Also, if this is a paternity case, please check with your lawyer. Also be aware that there's the UCCJEA Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction Enforcement Act that talks about what happens when parents move and go across state lines and where the case will be held. So you might be in California trying a Florida case in our hypothetical. Check with a lawyer.
Pete Wright:
Okay, question number three, Altered Afterthoughts. "I do not want to be a divorced person. How can I get an annulment? My ex misrepresented himself to me pretending to be kind and loving and respectful of me. Once we got married, he became abusive and is clearly a narcissist. Is this grounds for an annulment? Our marriage has only been 16 months. Can I still get an annulment so I don't have the stigma of divorce?"
Seth Nelson:
So one, I don't think there's much of a stigma of divorce anymore, especially if you just say, "I was married for 16 months, made a mistake. I didn't understand who the person was when I married them." Okay, check your local jurisdiction. Different jurisdictions have different requirements for annulment. Okay? I have found historically it's easier to get divorced than it is to get an annulment. You can always check with your local jurisdiction, your lawyer, but in the pleadings, when you file for anything in the law, you can argue in the alternative, "Hey, I would like to have a cup of decaf, but if you don't have decaf, I'll take caffeinated coffee." Right? One or the other. You can go in and say, "I would like an annulment. However, if you don't grant me an annulment, I would like a divorce." So you don't have to have two separate full proceedings. They can be two separate counts.
Pete Wright:
But this idea of feeling strongly about an annulment versus a divorce, that's something you're just going to have to roll the dice on.
Seth Nelson:
Yeah, I think that's really an internal thing, right?
Pete Wright:
Right.
Seth Nelson:
Okay. And we've talked about it with a really great Catholic priest about how the Catholic Church deals with annulments, which I found very interesting that you have to be no longer married, whether by annulment or divorce in a civil setting before the church will look into doing an annulment. So usually when you think of an annulment, most people think of that as religious issues as opposed to our legal system, non-religious issues. But there are annulments within the statute, but check your local jurisdiction.
Pete Wright:
Next question. This one's from Ricky M. "Should I tell my lawyer about the emotional progress I'm making or is or is that irrelevant to the legal case? Seth talks about working with a therapist, but does the team care about what I'm doing when I'm not doing something specifically for the case?"
Seth Nelson:
So I think, Pete, in looking at this, we should tie this in with some other questions down below about taking care of ourselves. So there's some other ones in here that people had really good questions about, "Hey, what about seeing a counselor before we even hire a lawyer to get through the emotional issues, before we get to the legal issues?" There were questions about when's the best time to get a mental health professional involved? Can I get a mental health professional involved after I'm divorced to help me get onto the next stage of my life? So we had a lot of kind of mental health questions.
Pete Wright:
We did, and I'll just follow up the next one. "Is there any benefit to working with a family systems coach before starting the divorce process? Can doing this emotional work influence outcomes like custody or co-parenting agreements?" This is from Bashir.
Seth Nelson:
So let's just talk mental health generally. The sooner, the better. It's a difficult time. So with a difficult time, I just think that what we should be doing is, "Hey, I need help from you, mental health professional, to help me personally get through this process." In the best scenario, if you are already going to dissolve your marriage, you and your spouse go to the same mental health professional, that's a good one. There's good and bad of course. And you say, "We want your help in getting through the emotional aspects of this. We're not asking you to divide the property. We're not asking you to create a parenting plan. We might ask you if you have parenting plan suggestions that you found have been best for kids at certain ages," that we've talked about on The Toaster. But getting that work done early and not saying things like, "I want this to be an amicable divorce," because though you might want that right when you say or do something because we're not going to be perfect in this process that hurts the other side, they're like, "Well, I thought you wanted amicable, but you're not acting that way now."
So be very careful with what you say. "I want to get through this with the least amount of misunderstanding and pain as possible." Because there will be misunderstandings, there will be pain. So we have these shorthand terms that I think get in the way when we don't meet those expectations from the other side. The answer is yes, it can certainly alleviate a lot of cost, a lot of anxiety, a lot of stress if both parties really in the grieving process of a relationship ending are at acceptance. And that's really what you're talking about if you're doing this ahead of time. So if you're at acceptance and now we're just dividing up the pie, but there will still be emotional attachments to pieces of that pie.
"I want to keep the house for the kids." "Well, okay, that's the underlying reason, but can we get another house in the same school district like we've talked about?" Don't just get positional. What's the reasoning behind it? And can we work through solutions? And along with that, if you're in the process and you're seeing a mental health counselor, I don't think it's worth your money to talk to your lawyer about what you're learning in your mental health counseling. It's not that they don't care. It's they will see your improvements by how you are responding to the stressors of the divorce process and the stressors of dissolving your marriage and the stressors of figuring out the money.
So you don't have to have a meeting with your lawyer to say, "Let me tell you what I've learned in counseling." People will mention it just intuitively like, "Oh, my counselor said," but I would just stay focused. Take whatever your counselor's giving you as homework to practice to breathe, to not have triggers, how to deal with them and put those into practice when you're talking with your lawyer in court or whatever part of the divorce process you're dealing with, and they'll know that you're on the right track.
Pete Wright:
Demonstrate it. Demonstrate it in practice, love it.
Seth Nelson:
And then after divorce is always a good time. How did you get where you were? How do you avoid making the mistakes that you made? And maybe it wasn't a mistake on your part. Maybe when you met someone there were no red flags about mental health issues and then they developed later in your spouse. Maybe there was no red flags about suffering from alcoholism. Maybe you didn't see the signs that there might've been about some other issues. So that's the hard work to say, "I don't want to ever do this again. How do I make sure that I'm doing what I need to do to improve myself?"
Pete Wright:
Right. Next question comes from Second Scrutiny. "How does the court evaluate claims that a child is being harmed emotionally by a parent's new partner? We just got through a disastrous divorce and now that it's done-done, my former spouse is threatening to take us back to court because she says my new partner is somehow dangerous. She is not dangerous."
Seth Nelson:
So let me first start with the threatening to take us back to court. This is my view. You are going to cross this bridge if and when it comes your way. If someone says, "I'm going to take you back to court," okay, I will deal with that when and if someone shows up on my doorstep and gives me legal paperwork that they're trying to reopen the case. So in Florida, check your local jurisdiction. You have to have a substantial change in circumstances. Having someone remarry or having a new partner in and of itself is not a substantial change in circumstances. And having them, the former partner say that the new partner is harming the children emotionally is a tough, tough road to prove in court depending on what the information and evidence will be.
If you have a new partner that is overstepping their bounds and they are not being a supportive role in supporting you with your decisions, but trying to be involved in your decisions and telling you what to do with dealing with your former spouse, telling you what to do with the kids, making pickup and drop-offs difficult, having them, "You call me mom or you call me dad. That's not your real dad on the other side, I care about you." Yeah, that's a problem. Probably shouldn't be with someone like that around your kids. You're just having them mess up your kids.
Pete Wright:
Right. That's a you problem, not just a former spouse problem.
Seth Nelson:
Well, that's your new partner's problem and it's a problem for you. It's a problem for your kids and obviously for your former spouse, but if they kind of know their place to be supportive of you in the decisions that you're making, not be involved in those decisions, not reading or writing your emails or writing your text messages or that's it. But look, do not worry about being threatened. If it comes your way, go talk to a lawyer.
Pete Wright:
Okay, next question comes from Duration Dilemma. "How should I think about the mediation format when considering multiple shorter two-hour sessions versus a marathon session? Note. My soon-to-be-ex plans to attend by herself, but will run it by her lawyer after who has blown up our initial temporary agreement the last time we tried mediation." Does that make sense?
Seth Nelson:
Yeah. Well, the frustrating thing here is it seems like, and look, everyone's always trying to save money, which is a good thing, but the problem is if you're mediating with someone who's not going to sign the document that day, then they're going to take the document and say, "Okay, let my lawyer review it." And then the lawyer's going to say, rightfully so, what the lawyer's supposed to do. "Did you think about this? What about that? Do you understand that this provision has an impact to this other provision?" Or, "Oh, this is a contract ambiguity. You say one thing in one part of the contract, another in the other part of the contractor." Or, "This is a little bit ambiguous. Let's flush that out." And now the lawyer is doing what their client's asking them to do, reviewing the contract, but pointing out problems. Then they come back to you and you're like, "Oh, they blew up the agreement."
I appreciate that sentimentality. Now maybe the lawyer did blow up the agreement. I was in my first hypothetical giving the lawyer the benefit of the doubt. Maybe the lawyer's just trying to churn a fee. So in doing that, it makes it more difficult because all the parties are not in the room at the time, and that's the magic mediation. Everybody's in the same room at the same time focused on it. Now back to the first part, multiple shorter two-hour sessions versus a marathon session, those are harder. You are so pressed for time, so you really got to be organized. I don't like to have multiple two-hour sessions. I'm like, "Hey, if we're going to do it, let's book nine to five."
Pete Wright:
Do it until it's done. Yeah.
Seth Nelson:
Well, I'm not saying stay till three in the morning and we have our own personal lives and sometimes we have hard stops because we have our own kids and we have to get to a play, right?
Pete Wright:
Sure.
Seth Nelson:
Or family in town or whatever the case may be. But so I never will make an agreement that, "Hey, I will go to mediation for as long as it takes," because if it's two in the morning, now my client's exhausted and under duress, that's not helping anybody. But to be prepared, if you're going for two hours, then maybe you just focus on one or two issues, which makes it harder to sell because there's less things to work with.
Pete Wright:
Sure, because issues relate to one another throughout the day. Okay.
Seth Nelson:
Yep, that's right. But if you can leave there and get that one part signed, then you go onto the next one. But I would have an agenda, be clear what we're talking about. No one's raising any other issues, but these two issues for these two hours, do the best you can.
Pete Wright:
Next question comes from Going Crazy in Key West. This is beefy. "My ex loves sending emails, long emails, five to 10 paragraphs that he sends four to five times a day whenever he has our child. They contain almost no useful information and are mostly his opinions, questioning my parenting or on minute details of our child's day and how much fun they are having. He sometimes requests weird information from me like how to deal with a hangnail on our child and demands I tell him how to fix it or to give him an exact meal plan that our child will eat. However, I find it very controlling and stressful as nothing I send over is enough. I recently have been trying Yellow Rock responses and to only answer what was specifically asked, however, I offer something like a food our child likes because he asked, he demands to know why I think that's good for him and to justify my food choices further. I don't think I should respond to those types of emails, but our court order says I have to reply to him within," say it with me now, "24 hours."
Seth Nelson:
24 hours.
Pete Wright:
"If I disagree with something he says, and simply state, 'I think we have different perceptions on this event', he wants to know how I could view it differently and what specifically do I view differently. I know this is a trap to get me to fight with him for court purposes. I'm worried responding will cause legal troubles and I'm worried not responding will also cause legal troubles. Sometimes he even sends an email about all the great stuff he's doing as a father and I don't respond to him because there's no question asked and I'm not sure what to say. And he says, I'm violating the court order because I didn't respond. What am I to do?"
Seth Nelson:
Okay, so talk to your lawyer.
Pete Wright:
Okay.
Seth Nelson:
Okay. I think generally speaking that the type of detail you're talking about, a judge, as long as you're responding about things that are relevant, like, hey, you put it out. You don't have to keep going back and forth and remember it's just once a day or you have the 24-hour problem that we discussed before. But read the book BIFF. Please. Brief, Informative, Friendly and Fair, because I think that is the best book to talk about how to deal with these types of issues. If you have an app that you're dealing with, use the tone meter. But yeah, this is just, it feels at nauseam, but, "Oh my God, here we go again. I got to answer every little thing."
I would not have an issue going to court and saying, "Judge, this isn't what this is designed to do." But talk to your lawyer and then I strongly suggest if your lawyer will do it, or at least inquire your lawyer, "Hey, will you review these messages?" And it'll be expensive at first and kind of teach me how to respond after you read the book BIFF.
Pete Wright:
The book BIFF by Bill Eddy, he is a fantastic asset to the field of dealing with high conflict situations. You can also check out his podcast with Megan Hunter. It's All Your Fault: High conflict People, from the High Conflict Institute will put links in the show notes. Very, very useful resources there. Next question, from Divine Direction, this is a question I can answer. "Can you host a panel of different religious leaders, Jewish, Muslim, Catholic, Hindu, etc. And get their perspectives on divorce and getting through difficult situations in life and of healing after divorce?" Well, we haven't done a panel, but we've done three episodes, two rabbis and a priest walk into a podcast. No.
Seth Nelson:
Yeah, I was waiting for it.
Pete Wright:
Yeah, and those were fantastic conversations. I would encourage you to do that. They offer exactly what you're asking for. We don't have Muslim and Hindu on the list, but it's a provocative question.
Seth Nelson:
Look, you got to answer one, Pete.
Pete Wright:
I got to answer one. That's what I get. Just show up, read, answer one question. Here we go. Next one is from Shield Seeking. This is our last question. "I just finished a three-year, high conflict divorce. It was horrible and has financially ruined me. I am heavily in debt and have nothing left. The main issue was child custody. None of our marital assets were worth any sort of money and unfortunately my ex was unwilling to be reasonable and would even end mediation as soon as it started. My ex makes significantly more than I do and has family money. I want to protect my financial well-being, should my ex file for modifications, etc. in the future. But also if I remarry and have children with a new partner, I feel like it's such bad luck that happened to me and like a bad car accident or medical condition requiring surgery. There has to be something I can do to protect myself from spending six-figure legal fees. Can a prenuptial agreement help for a future marriage? Any advice?"
Seth Nelson:
Yes, a prenup can help. That's the answer. So you can't do a prenup on kid issues in Florida, check your local jurisdiction or child support issues. But you can on equitable distribution, the division of assets and debts, you can on alimony, you can on attorney's fees though in some states temporary fees to get you through the divorce process are or may not be enforceable. So please check your local jurisdiction on that. But yes, when you get married, you enter into a contract, whether you know it or like it or not. You don't know the terms of that contract because for example in Florida there's different amounts or lengths of time that you might receive alimony at the highest point of time depending on how long you're married. So how do you know when you first get married what that point will be? You don't know whether you'll be married 10 years, five years, 20 years, and depending on those timeframes will depend on the most alimony and length of time that you might be able to receive.
You don't know what your standard of living will be five years, 10 years, 20 years from now, what your incomes will be, where you'll be living, how much assets or debts will you have? So you can resolve all those types of issues by entering into a prenup. And there's different ways to write prenups and when you write a prenup, it could be the perfect prenup, but then you got to live your life protecting the prenup so you're not co-mingling money. Check your local jurisdiction, because that can hollow out the division of assets if you're moving money all around, marital, non-marital, if you're not really keeping track of the prenup in the way you should be when you're actually living your life like, "Oh, we got a prenup. I'm safe. I'll put it on the shelf. I won't think about it."
But you need to think about it because your course of dealing with your spouse and how you handle money, your actions can gut the prenup and you're left with a hollow document. But yes, that is the way to try to avoid it. Now when you said the main issue was child custody, I can solve that problem in the second marriage. Don't have kids. Sounds silly, but I don't know your age or what you're doing and you might want to have kids, because they're amazing. But let's just-
Pete Wright:
That is certainly one option.
Seth Nelson:
That's right.
Pete Wright:
Yeah.
Seth Nelson:
That's right.
Pete Wright:
All right.
Seth Nelson:
So I love these list of questions. They're in, quick. They're really interesting. When we read them all, Pete, we even had more that were... A lot of them dealt with two things, communication and mental health. So we really combine those because we had a lot more on that. But it's so nice to hear what people are really looking for and to send these questions in and hopefully we can help them in some small way.
Pete Wright:
Yeah, the things they're really living through. That's hugely helpful for us too. So thank you everybody for participating, for heading over to HowToSplitAToaster.com and submitting your questions. We're thrilled to be able continue to read and answer these questions to the best of our ability without giving any legal advice. Please check your local jurisdiction and talk to an attorney. And that's all we've got. We're taking a little bit of a break this season and we'll have more news about what's coming up in short quarter. On behalf of Seth Nelson, America's favorite divorce attorney, I'm Pete Wright and we'll see you right back here next season on How to Split a Toaster, a Divorce Podcast about saving your relationships.
Outro:
How to Split A Toaster is part of the True Story FM Podcast Network, produced by Andy Nelson Music, by T. Bless, and the professionals and DB Studios. Seth Nelson is an attorney with NLG Divorce and Family Law with offices in Tampa, Florida. While we may be discussing family law topics, How to Split a Toaster is not intended to, nor is it providing legal advice. Every situation is different. If you have specific questions regarding your situation, please seek your own legal counsel with an attorney licensed to practice law in your jurisdiction. Pete Wright is not an attorney or employee of NLG Divorce and Family Law. Seth Nelson is licensed to practice law in Florida.
